"Let them- Let me."
Let's start today!
How does it work? Any ways that fits into your schedule and personality...
The premise: 5 times over the next 2 weeks when something is out of your control is eating at your joy....
Take a mental step back and a deep breath.
Recognize that these actions are out of your control.
Say Let them...xyz.
Say Let me... XYZ.
Win your power back by being in-control of the experience with your mind.
Decide what method of reporting benefits you:
Think it in your head, Write it down, Text it to me, Email it to me, Post it on my FB page. Email me your entire story at the end.
AND I'M TRYING SOMETHING NEW... If you're the type that likes to share... Join us for "LET THEM LOOSE - VIRTUAL HAPPY HOUR" to learn from our stories and share wins. Tuesday, March 11th... 6pm?! I'm flexible. Meet the KDC Community. Please let me know if you plan to come so I can prepare.
Need an example!? I'll go first...
My boys chose not to get ready for skiing when they needed to get ready this AM
"Let them make their own choice." "Let them be late for their race"
"Let me be freed from the sprint of picking up all the pieces and getting in a fight with them to move and eat."
Make conscious decisions based on what's best for me and the well-being of my kids in which they can learn from their experiences.
More examples:
Really bothered by a narcissistic leader
"Let them show their true color"
"Let me be freed from following minute by minute roller coaster"
Do what's in your control. Be a good human. Help someone. Write a letter to someone who can create change. The world will improve if you are your best self.
Another:
The neighbor who leaves their trash cans out.
"Let them decide how they want to manage their trash"
"Let me be thankful I have the mental and physical capacity to bring my crash cans in.
React how you want to react. Offer them help or choose to ignore it
Other topics: the referees, your boss, a world event, the score to a game, the person in line in front of you at CVS, insurance companies, a partner, a sibling, your in-laws.
HERE THE FULL THEORY FOR REVIEW: From my favorite book this month... Let them Theory by Mel Robbins.
The "Let Them, Let Me" theory is a powerful mindset shift that helps you reclaim your peace and energy by focusing on what you can control – yourself – and releasing what you can't – other people and their actions.
The beauty ... It applies to anything... politics, relationships, sports, family... ANYTHING out of your control.
Here's a breakdown:
Let Them:
Acknowledge the reality: Recognize that you cannot control other people's thoughts, feelings, behaviors, or choices. They have their own free will and perspectives, which may differ from yours.
Release the need to control: Stop trying to change, fix, or manage others. This includes their reactions, opinions, and decisions.
Acceptance: Accept that people will be who they are, and things will happen as they do, regardless of your efforts to control them.
Detach: Detach from the outcome and the need for things to be a certain way. This doesn't mean you don't care, but it means you're not emotionally invested in forcing a particular result.
Let Me:
Shift focus to yourself: Once you've let go of trying to control others, redirect your attention to what you can control: your own thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions.
Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own well-being, choices, and boundaries.
Empowerment: Focus on how you choose to respond to situations and people. You have the power to choose your attitude, your actions, and how you care for yourself.
Self-care: Prioritize your own needs, values, and goals. Make decisions that align with your well-being.
In essence, the "Let Them, Let Me" theory is about:
Acceptance: Accepting what you cannot change.
Empowerment: Taking charge of what you can.
Boundaries: Setting healthy boundaries between yourself and others.
Peace: Finding peace by releasing the burden of trying to control everything and everyone around you.
How to apply it:
Identify the situation: Recognize when you're trying to control something or someone outside of yourself.
Say "Let Them": Acknowledge that you cannot control the other person or situation.
Say "Let Me": Shift your focus to what you can control – your response, your actions, your choices.
Act accordingly: Make conscious decisions based on what's best for you and your well-being.
Benefits:
Reduced stress and anxiety
Improved relationships
Increased self-awareness
Greater sense of peace and empowerment
More energy to focus on what truly matters to you
The "Let Them, Let Me" theory is a simple yet profound tool for navigating the complexities of life and relationships. It's about recognizing your own power and focusing your energy where it truly makes a difference – on yourself.
Your friend, your coach, your teammate, your specialist your advocate, your physician,
Jamie Baines